Lastly, on a safety note, Ashford recommends avoiding cheap toys, as these are often breeding grounds for bacteria due to being made of porous materials, and many contain harmful chemicals known as phthalates. The sex toy industry is unregulated, so you unfortunately can’t always trust what companies say about their own products’ safety and formulation; your best bet is to read reviews online, and do your research on sex toy materials and brands.
Or you could just try some of our expert-vetted picks! Here are some of the best sex toys for couples to use together.
The Best Hands-Free Vibrator: We-Vibe Sync
Battery Life: 2 hours
How to Use: Hold button on the toy to turn it on. Control it using the same button, the included remote, or the We-Connect app on your phone.
Many other companies have tried to riff on We-Vibe’s signature C-shaped vibrator design, but the original is still the best of the best. Meant to be “worn” vaginally during intercourse, the We-Vibe stimulates both partners at once, for stellar (and possibly simultaneous) orgasms. This model has two hinges at its center, so you can adjust it to achieve your perfect fit.
Pros: Bluetooth-controllable; powerful vibrations; adjustable fit; stimulates clitoris and G-spot simultaneously; 10 different intensity levels; waterproof; quiet
Cons: Can’t easily use either arm of the toy on its own; can’t use with silicone-based lubes
The Best Stroking Toy: Fleshlight Quickshot
Materials: SuperSkin and ABS plastic
How to Use: Apply lubricant to your penis and to the inside of the toy, slide inside, and stroke.
Fleshlight is the biggest name in the stroker game, and for good reason: the ribbed texture inside this one is ultra-stimulating. The Quickshot differs from your standard Fleshlight, though, in that it’s open on both ends—which makes cleanup less messy and annoying, and also means a partner can use this toy on the base of your shaft while giving you oral sex.
Pros: Compact and travel-friendly; pleasurably textured interior; translucent for a better view; open-endedness allows it to be used during oral sex and other activities; easier to clean than a standard Fleshlight
Cons: Porous material will have a shorter lifespan than silicone; can’t be used with silicone-based lubes
The Best Low-Profile Toy: We-Vibe Melt
Battery Life: 2 hours
How to Use: Apply lubricant to the toy’s nozzle and place it on your clitoris. Control it with the buttons on the toy or by pairing it with the We-Connect app.
This petite toy uses rhythmic pulses of air to create clitoral sensations that mimic great oral sex—but unlike many other toys with this technology, the We-Vibe Melt is slim enough to slip between bodies easily during penetrative sex, for the ultimate blended orgasm.
Pros: Flexible nozzle for increased comfort; low-profile shape allows it to fit well between bodies during sex; 12 intensity levels; waterproof; quiet
Cons: May not fit all clit sizes; can’t be used with silicone-based lubes
The Best Body-Contoured Clitoral Vibrator: Lelo Nea
Materials: ABS plastic
Battery Life: 4 hours
How to Use: Apply lubricant to the toy if desired, apply it to your clitoris or other sensitive zones, and control it with the buttons on the toy.